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Being abused by any group of people be it the home, workplace, school playground or community is no picnic for anyone. It is very difficult to prove and at times it can seem like everyone you meet is involved which can make the target hypervigilant and anxious for most of the time. This is very unhealthy and lead to all sorts of health problems including, but not limited to, adrenal fatique, insomnia, headaches and stomach disorders.

When being abused the target may become obsessed with self help books and researching all aspects of abuse and if not careful it may become as harmful as the abuse itself. The books and links provided on this website are probably enough to provide a firm foundation to work on, once you know what mobbing is about and it's tactics the target should try not to overthink it. The abuser want you to become obsessed with them and their perverted game, do not play their game, just try and get on with your life while taking a bit more care with whom you trust and talk to.
Self Care

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  • Minimise conatct with your abuser(s) as much as possible.
  • Try to only keep to people you know to be on hundred percent reliable and honest, this may not include family, take care!
  • Try not to think about what the abuser may or may not do, you cannot do much about it anyway.
  • Journal everything that occurs with times, dates pictures and videos if possible.
  • You should realise you are not alone in being abuseded, it happens to about one in ten people at some stage of their lives. Sad but true!
  • You need to learn about abuse but do not get obsessed with it. Know what it is, what it's aims are and the techniques used.
  • The abuser(s) will always be trying to provoke you, you should practice techniques to keep yourself calm. A recommended technique is mindfulness which is a way of learning a bit of self control and can help overcome anxiety.
  • You need to keep a sense of humour and be able to laugh. Life is on a spectrum there is joy at one end and the abuser(s) is at the other end. You need to keep towards the joy end of the spectrum, leave the abuser(s) to stew at their own end.
  • The abuser(s) wants you to think and worry about the abuser(s) all the time, do not do this. The abuser(s) is/are really troubled people and have thier own problems, do not get sucked into their drama and toxic environment. Mindfulness can help with this as part of it is controlling your own thoughts and keeping things grounded.

Someone who is a great advocate for targets of emotional abuse is Melanie Tonia Evans who herself suffered emotional abuse for several years. She has created the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP). Melanie is a narcisissistic abuse recovery expert, healer, author and radio host.

Biography form the Amazon website.

Melanie Tonia Evans
Melanie’s leading edge healing methods have helped thousands of people from over 80 countries make astounding full recoveries from narcissistic abuse.

Her passion is bringing to the world the Thriver Model … which saved her life and granted her the life of her dreams, despite being given the diagnosis that she would never recover from her abuse symptoms.

Melanie’s Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program which contains her pioneer super-tool, Quanta Freedom Healing, enables people to heal from trauma in time frames and ways they had never previously accessed – even when every other healing method has failed.

Melanie’s work is revolutionizing the old Model of Survivor Recovery to one of Thriver status – whereby people become more confident, happy and successful in life, than they ever were even before being abused … or even if abuse was all they have ever known.

The Thriver Model has gained incredible attention and recognition, with psychologists, counsellors, domestic violence workers and relationship experts globally, referring abuse victims to Melanie’s Model as the solution to heal for real from narcissistic abuse.

Melanie has a website at

Her book You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse: The #1 System for Recovering from Toxic Relationships is available on Amazon at or at
Long version of the Serenity Prayer

God grant me the Serenity
To accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And the Wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time.
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as he did, this sinful world as it is,
Not as I would like it.

Trusting that he will make all things right,
If I surrender to his will.
That I may be reasonably happy in this world
And supremely happy in the next.

Reinhold Niebuhr, Noted German Theologian
A prayer or affirmation which some people find useful to recovery is provided below:

Short version of the Serenity Prayer

God grant me the Serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to
change the things I can;
and the Wisdom to
know the difference.

Reinhold Niebuhr, Noted German Theologian

This prayer has been credited to almost every theologian, philosopher and saint known to man. It was actually written around 1932 by Dr. Reinhold Niebuhr of the Union Theological Seminary in New York City, as the ending to a longer prayer.

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